Love....

[Khem]

god you give good advise.

[Khablan]

Who, me, Pur?  Why, thank you - that's the first time anyone's ever said that to me. 

[Khem]

its true.

[Allama]

ideed thats fantastic.
nah i am actualy in the process of finding romantic love again, hence my interest in everyones thoughts. glad the response was this good.

* PUR gains back faith in humanity even ryaz.

Hooray, good news!  I am very happy to hear this.

...but does this mean our engagement is off?


P.S. I second Khablan, Emp.  We spoke of this via PM yesterday, but I wanted to express my empathy anyway.  I sincerely hope things work out for you, hun.

[Solnath]

I reckon I'm the only one present whose immune system fights and defeats love on a regular basis.

[Khablan]

You know, Soly, there's cure for that.  Hey, why don't you come over to my house on Friday night - I'll throw a party, and we'll talk...

[Solnath]

O.o'''

[Ryazania]

I reckon I'm the only one present whose immune system fights and defeats love on a regular basis.

I don't need to defeat it. I deflect it.

[Algerianbania]

Khab, your story almost made me cry. I wish that I had done something like that. You kid made me realize how shitty I treat my mother.

I reckon I'm the only one present whose immune system fights and defeats love on a regular basis.

I love you. But I guess that doesn't matter. 

[Khablan]

I'll tell you the truth as I see it.  What happened before doesn't matter nearly as much as what happens now.  If you feel badly about the way you've made your mother feel in the past, you can't change what's already happened.  But you CAN change what you do now.  Start out small - pick one or two things you'd like to do differently from now on, and concentrate on that.  Maybe resolve to simply say something nice to her once or twice a week.  Or vow that you won't use a particular cutting remark anymore that you know really hurts her.  That way you can develop new habits, a little bit at a time, rather than try to make a massive change all at once.  I'm sure your mom isn't perfect either.  None of us are.  But one thing's for sure - moms tend to have an endless supply of forgiveness.

By the way, if anyone thought my last post to Soly sounded crypic - it was a joke that I knew he would recognize.   

[Solnath]

Thanks for the confidence. And Alger, it's not about people's affections towards me, it's about my own towards others. Four months is the longest relationship I've been able to maintain and the last month of it was mostly torment for me.

[Algerianbania]

Khab: What I meant was that I never did anything sweet like that for my mom. Compared to your kid, I treat my mom badly. I once tried to pool my money with my brother and buy her some real diamonds (about 2 years ago), but my dad said that we should, that it was his job to get the jewelry. I wish I hadn't listened to him.

[Ryazania]

Thanks for the confidence. And Alger, it's not about people's affections towards me, it's about my own towards others. Four months is the longest relationship I've been able to maintain and the last month of it was mostly torment for me.

Pfff? Four months? Try 4 weeks.

[Solnath]

Four months is the record, typically it's ca. a month or less.

[Ryazania]

That is my record. I can't stand to be with one person for any prolonged amount of time.