Love....

[Khem]

Love... what a loaded word, where to begin on love......
Love: Avoid at all costs.

anyhow what are your various thoughts on love, i lust for your opinions.

[Khablan]

My thoughts on love...

People will seek love whether consciously or unconsciously - even those who fear commitment or who've been burned before.  Because humans crave to bond.

The marriages that last the longest and are still happy to the end usually started with friendship as its base, rather than passion.  Passion fades - friendship deepens.

The one you love can hurt you much more deeply than anyone else.

No relationship can be happy or lasting without trust.

Knowing that the one you love knows all your faults, has seen you at your worst, and yet still loves you... is a most wonderful thing.

Every long-lasting relationship goes through at least one period where love dies.  But if the relationship was based on more than just passion, and if they hang on, it often returns after awhile.

[Allama]

Here is a portion of my personal "take" on love:

As human beings we exist to love: people, creation, expression, ourselves... all forms of love are a celebration of life itself and the reason we are.  Love gives life purpose, whether it be love of others or of a task or of a faith.  I don't think we would have been imbued with souls for a baser or less grand reason; God would be lonely all by Himself in the universe, I think.  What's the point in creating and existing if you have nothing with which to share love?

I'm sure you meant romantic love, however, so I shall not digress any more.    Love is an integral part of the human experience; I don't believe you can find true happiness without having felt love.  Even if you lose it, it was worth having because it enriched and expanded the realm of your heart and soul.  There is nothing more beautiful and moving than seeing love in the eyes of the one you care for, who understands and appreciates you for who you are, flaws and all.

Some of the attributes I find necessary in a lasting relationship are trust, forgiveness, understanding, patience, and humor.  You have to have a strong emotional base upon which to build romance.  As Khablan said, you have to be friends first and foremost because passion and romance probably won't last forever.

Another thought: the one you love can and will cause you pain.  If you've been with someone for a long time and have yet to be upset or argue I would venture to guess something is being hidden or suppressed.  We want relationships to be perfect and expect that when we find "true" love nothing bad will happen between us (especially when we're young and inexperienced) but this is a fantasy.  No relationship, romantic or not, is ever free of mishap.  Of course, this does not mean it isn't still wonderful.  If you truly care for someone you simply have to be able to forgive and move on.

[Solnath]

Love is actually a misspelled reverse of the word "live," that originally meant evil.

[Algerianbania]

Love... what a loaded word, where to begin on love......
Love: Avoid at all costs.

anyhow what are your various thoughts on love, i lust for your opinions.

Some guy who you liked just dumped you. That's why you say "Love: avoid at all costs". Your angry and you need to take it out somewhere. I would suggest a dumpster. They are vary handy for such situations.

Anyway, I love love. Its a sweet nice feel. There are 4 kinds of love.

1. The love of an object. This is when you have become attached to a sentimental object.

2. The love of an action or other object (such as food, clothing [non-sentimental], a band, etc.).

3. The love of family.

4. The love a significant other(s). This is usually completely outside of the other 3 categories, unless you for instance have sexual relations with your sister, that would fall under 3 and 4, and you would also be classified as a sicko.

[Solnath]

Technically speaking, 4 falls under 3, as well as 1. (Your wife is a part of your family, which by definition consists of people you love the most, and she's also a human, hence an animal, hence an object. I shall now prepare to be verbally and physically assaulted by feminists.)

Here's my condensed version of Alger's lovelist:

1) Concrete things

2) Less concrete things

My own list would be as follows, a bit differently formed:

1) The love of life, i.e. of the three best things in life, which are:
a) to crush your enemies,
b) to see them driven before you and
c) to hear the lamentation of their women

2) Hmm, actually, 1) covers everything really worth the title of "love."

3) See 2).

[Algerianbania]

Thank you for the correct form of clarification Solnath.

[Solnath]

Happy to be of service. Unfortunately, this pro bono activity is bad for business.

[Ryazania]

In my opinion, 'love' is nothing more than a compatibilty of chemistry(Literally. Like, scientific and shit.)

[Solnath]

Please note, class, the delicate ellipsis that Ryaz used here. He makes no reference to the compatibility of physics. What can we deduce from this?

Also, Ryaz, following your line of thought, everything is caused by chemicals and electric impulses. Which, as a matter of fact, doesn't sound all that bad, does it?

[Ryazania]

I suppose it's safe to assume everything happens because of chemical and electrical reactions.

[Delfos]

Amor é fogo que arde sem se ver

Amor é fogo que arde sem se ver;
É ferida que dói e não se sente;
É um contentamento descontente;
É dor que desatina sem doer;

É um não querer mais que bem querer;
É solitário andar por entre a gente;
É nunca contentar-se de contente;
É cuidar que se ganha em se perder;

É querer estar preso por vontade;
É servir a quem vence, o vencedor;
É ter com quem nos mata lealdade.

Mas como causar pode seu favor
Nos corações humanos amizade,
Se tão contrário a si é o mesmo Amor?

                           Luís de Camões

[The Empire]

Love keeps getting me in trouble with myself :S

[Daimiaen]

Nothing real can be threatened...Nothing unreal exists....

Just a thought....

[Khablan]

Oh, I don't know about that.  Last night, I threatened to make my son clean his room if he wasn't going to get onto his homework.  If he isn't real, then who's making all that mess in his bedroom?